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The Non-Obvious Show · Episode 50

Negotiating While Black (Or While Underestimated)

with Damali Peterman

Episode 50 · September 9, 2025 · 32 min

In This Episode

In this conversation, Damali Peterman discusses the nuances of negotiation, particularly from the perspective of being underestimated due to race or gender. She emphasizes the importance of authenticity, identity, and everyday negotiation opportunities. The discussion also touches on the challenges of cookie-cutter negotiation tactics and the unique experiences of negotiating as a Black woman. Damali shares personal anecdotes and insights from her book, 'Negotiating While Black', highlighting the need for a more inclusive understanding of negotiation strategies.

Key Takeaways

  • Negotiation is a skill that everyone can develop.
  • Authenticity can be a superpower in negotiations.
  • People often underestimate others based on race or gender.
  • Everyday conversations are opportunities for negotiation.
  • Cookie-cutter tactics may not work for everyone.
  • Understanding your audience is crucial in negotiation.
  • Negotiation is personal and should reflect your identity.
  • The 'talk' given to Black children prepares them for real-world challenges.
  • Building rapport can significantly impact negotiation outcomes.
  • It's important to show up as your true self in negotiations.

What We Cover

  • 00:00Introduction to Negotiation and Authenticity
  • 02:51The Roots of Negotiation Skills
  • 08:19Underestimation in Negotiation
  • 13:03Normalizing Negotiation in Everyday Life
  • 15:08Challenging Cookie-Cutter Negotiation Tactics
  • 19:49Negotiating as a Black Woman
  • 24:14The Talk: Preparing for Real-World Challenges
  • 27:21Lessons Learned from Writing the Book

About The Guest

Damali Peterman CEO of BreakthroughADR; author of Negotiating While Black

Damali Peterman is a lawyer and mediator, the founder and CEO of BreakthroughADR, and a mediator and arbitrator with JAMS. She wrote Negotiating While Black: Be Who You Are to Get What You Want, on negotiating effectively without hiding your identity.

damalipeterman.com ↗

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